Goals - So really, what exactly is a goal? And how do I actually achieve it?

A journal is a good way to break down your goals and track your progress.

We hear about goals all the time. We set them. We reach for them. We crush them. We hit them. We hustle for them.

But let’s slow down for a moment and really ask:

What is a goal?

A goal isn’t just something you cross off a list. It's not about impressing others or proving you’re worthy.A real goal is a desire from inside —a vision for a life that feels alive.

It’s a direction, not just a destination. It gives your energy focus and your heart something to reach for.

But to be honest, goals can feel real heavy. Big. Far away. Overwhelming. And sometimes that’s where we get stuck. Not because we’re lazy or unmotivated, but because we haven’t broken it down in a way that feels doable and aligned. A way it works for us. This has happened to me so many times.

It's similar to when I write a book I have to break it down into doable tasks. Outline, chapters, titles, etc. If I tried to just start and "write a book" I'm sure it would be overwhelming and I would give up.

So how do you actually move toward a goal in a way that feels doable and not overwhelming?

🔄 Step One: Know Your Why

Don’t just ask, “What do I want to accomplish this ?" Ask, “Why does this matter to me?”

Your why is your fuel. It’s what keeps you going when the shiny motivation wears off. Make sure your goal is rooted in your heart—not in comparison of others or expectation of others.

🧭 Step Two: Set the Vision, Not Just the Target

Instead of saying “I want to lose 10 pounds” or “I want a new job,” ask:

How do I want to feel? Who do I want to become in the process? What will it look like when I reach it?

Your goal should reflect a shift in how you experience your life—not just what you do with it.

🪞 Step Three: Break It Down (Like, Way Down)

This is where most people trip up. I've done it multiple times. You try to leap from where you are to where you want to be in one big jump. Then, when it doesn’t happen overnight, you give up.

So let’s shift that.

• Break your goal into milestones

• Break those milestones into weekly focus areas

• Break those into daily choices

Tiny steps add up. Consistency is more powerful than intensity.

⏳ Step Four: Create Gentle Steps, Not Pressure

Structure supports you—it doesn’t have to suffocate you.Set up rituals, check-ins, or accountability that feel nurturing, not punishing. And remember: life happens. Flexibility is part of the plan. If you get stalled, accept it and keep going. Don't go back to square one. Or even worse, give up. If you have to repeat days, or even weeks, just do it.

💛 Step Five: Celebrate Along the Way

You don’t have to wait until you “arrive” to be proud of yourself.Celebrate the courage it takes to begin.Celebrate the shifts in how you show up, not just what you check off.

🌿 The Bottom Line:

A goal isn’t about fixing yourself. It's about becoming more of who you really are.

So give yourself permission to want more—but let it come from love, not pressure.